When I became the mother of one, then two, girls I would occasionally think about the prevalence of eating disorders and what I could do to make sure my girls never suffered from one. But the more I worked in my job on this section, and in my role as patron of a women's legal organisation, I realised that there was a greater ill that could befall them: getting into an abusive domestic relationship.

Two weeks ago, I got a particularly disturbing letter from a reader who suspects her sister is in such a relationship. The sister had isolated herself from her whole family, and when they had last seen her, she appeared terrified. I couldn't stop thinking about it; 48 hours later the Sunday papers showed Nigella Lawson in a row with her husband, his hand around her throat.

Domestic violence is a particularly pernicious crime. The very place where you are meant to feel safe - home - is often the place of most danger. The very person who should look after you - your partner - attacks you or diminishes you. I wish I could say I can't imagine what that is like, but unfortunately, as I'll explain later, I can.

In March 2013, the Home Office published figures relating to violence against women and girls in the UK. It showed that the previous year, 1.2 million women suffered domestic abuse. And these are just the ones that come on to the Home Office radar. Continue reading

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• Annalisa Barbieri in The Gaurdian
• Image: Capital EAP

Annalisa Barbieri is a Guardian columnist and also writes for the Economist's Intelligent Life magazine, the New Statesman and the Independent.

I tried to use that one once on my current small group to see what they would do. They just stared at me and rolled their eyes. Then they laughed because they knew I was joking.

Maybe teenagers in 1995 were a lot more corny than teenagers in 2013. Or maybe it was just me.

There are things our daughters (and sons, too!) need to hear us say. And even though the clichés may encourage some of them and may look cute on a poster, they will most likely fall flat on young ears. Here is my best attempt to come up with 12 non-cliché things our daughters need to hear us say.

1. I have hope.

I could tell her "Have hope." But, I speak as a daughter here, it means more to me to see my parents have hope than for them to tell me to have hope. My hope (or lack thereof) speaks louder to her than my words about hope.

Show her you have hope - you trust God with your family, you have hope for her future, you see light in dark places. Continue reading

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• Emily in Chatting at the Sky
• Image: More4Kids