Why I did invite family and friends to my wedding

There’s an article doing the rounds on Social Media at the moment.

It is titled “Why I Didn’t Invite Family Or Friends To My Wedding”.

And that’s great.

But here’s why I did invite family and friends (and lots of them, we come from big families) to my our wedding.

After four years of dating, despite being 21, we decided to get married.

Aided by an unexpected proposal on a remote Cook Island beach.

We began talking about what kind of wedding we wanted.

Well actually, I was just impatient to marry my love and get on with our married lives.

We had been living in separate countries, attempting to live chastely for each other, and impatient covered much of that.

From witnessing other strong marriages in our lives and through our knowledge of the commitment and life long nature of marriage, we knew that what we were undertaking was serious.

It wasn’t to be taken lightly.

And so, we knew that we both wanted and had to invite everyone around us.

People who had known us and shared with us our whole lives couldn’t be missed out.

Because although marriage is a bond between two people, it also is the creation of a family – both as one unit, but also as the coming together of two separate families. In Laws.

That marriage also relies on the support of the community around it.

The strength of good family and friends who will give advice, share in joys and tears, tell you to pick yourself up and go back to the marriage in hard times, support in the raising of children and its inevitable ups and downs.

And so much more. We need them. They need us.

Our loved ones have as much right to celebrate in our joy (and their own joy in sharing in our lives), as we do to celebrate it in the first place (how’s that for a sentence?). Continue reading


Chelsea Houghton is editor of Restless Press, as well as a columnist for Catholic Stand, Ignitum Today and NZ Catholic.

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