Funeral - CathNews New Zealand https://cathnews.co.nz Catholic News New Zealand Wed, 08 Nov 2023 18:26:30 +0000 en-NZ hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.1 https://cathnews.co.nz/wp-content/uploads/2020/05/cropped-cathnewsfavicon-32x32.jpg Funeral - CathNews New Zealand https://cathnews.co.nz 32 32 70145804 Call for law update as burial disputes can cost mixed-race families thousands to resolve https://cathnews.co.nz/2023/11/09/call-for-law-update-as-burial-disputes-can-cost-mixed-race-families-thousands-to-resolve/ Thu, 09 Nov 2023 04:54:22 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=166010 The Burials and Cremation Act, created over half a century ago, needs to reflect modern funeral requirements of the ever broadening racial and religious mix in New Zealand families, an industry expert says. Michael Powell, general manager of Davis Funerals, said gaps in the law have seen families of mixed ethnicities and religions spending tens Read more

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The Burials and Cremation Act, created over half a century ago, needs to reflect modern funeral requirements of the ever broadening racial and religious mix in New Zealand families, an industry expert says.

Michael Powell, general manager of Davis Funerals, said gaps in the law have seen families of mixed ethnicities and religions spending tens of thousands of dollars in legal fees to resolve disputes around funeral arrangements immediately following the death of a loved one.

Between 2001 and 2013 there have been changes in ethnic intermarriage in New Zealand, especially among Maori. Interracial marriage has become common among Maori, Pasifika and Asian people and significantly higher for people born in Aoteaora. Read more

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Mourners get a big shock at funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2023/07/20/mourners-get-a-big-shock-at-funeral/ Thu, 20 Jul 2023 11:11:48 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=161562 The loved ones of a Brazilian man were taken aback after reading online that he had died. He had not told anyone he was ill. In the comments section, individuals expressed their condolences and inquired about the circumstances of his death. However, no explanation was provided; instead, his funeral service details were shared on his Read more

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The loved ones of a Brazilian man were taken aback after reading online that he had died. He had not told anyone he was ill. In the comments section, individuals expressed their condolences and inquired about the circumstances of his death. However, no explanation was provided; instead, his funeral service details were shared on his Facebook account.

During the funeral, the attendees were shocked when the man they thought was dead started talking and telling stories about his life. Some even cried, thinking it was a message he had recorded before he died. Then the altar doors were opened, and he appeared before them. He explained that he had organised this event to see who would attend his funeral. Read more

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AI and Chatbots; new media for communicating with the dead https://cathnews.co.nz/2023/07/13/ai-and-chatbots-communicating-with-the-dead/ Thu, 13 Jul 2023 06:10:25 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=161228 AI and chatbots

Carrie Rowell still misses the 7 a.m. phone calls from her father, who died six years ago. He would use her nickname, "Toots," or ask, "Hey, babe, how's your morning going?" "I would give anything to hear that again," Rowell said. But interacting with a version of a departed loved one is now more accessible Read more

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Carrie Rowell still misses the 7 a.m. phone calls from her father, who died six years ago.

He would use her nickname, "Toots," or ask, "Hey, babe, how's your morning going?"

"I would give anything to hear that again," Rowell said.

But interacting with a version of a departed loved one is now more accessible than ever, thanks to generative language models such as ChatGPT.

Trained on a deceased relative's words — from a digital journal, videos or other content — a chatbot can reply to a prompt or question from a survivor with what it predicts the relative would say.

This might sound like the episode of the science-fiction series "Black Mirror" that explored a woman's use of technology to create a virtual version of her dead boyfriend, with disturbing implications.

But this is the very real way technology is helping people deal — or maybe not deal — with death.

Funeral homes are already adding AI powered obituary-writing services to the digital memorial webpages they create.

An interactive app, HereAfter AI, lets a user preserve photos and memories for family members to access after the user has died.

The Project December website offers to "simulate the dead" in a text-based conversation with anyone, "including someone who is no longer living."

In 2020, reality TV star Kim Kardashian even famously received a hologram of her late father wishing her a happy 40th birthday, a gift from her now ex-husband, rapper Kanye West.

Rowell, however, is unlikely to pursue any similar avenues.

"I don't think it would do me any good," said Rowell, who teaches the psychology of grief class in the mortuary science program at the University of Minnesota's medical school. "I think that it would open up a wound that at least has a pretty good cover on it."

The potential for new technology to intersect with age-old bereavement practices is growing nonetheless.

Rowell and others have advice on what to consider in creating a "chatbot of the dead."

Remember dignity, respect

Michael LuBrant, director of the U's mortuary science program, said the impulse to create a way to communicate with the dearly departed is part of human nature.

"There's no question that the idea of having ways to remember and memorialize and connect is, I think, something that's wired into our DNA," LuBrant said.

LuBrant, however, urges caution to families and funeral homes regarding chatbots. One concern is the degree to which survivors or others define the legacy of someone who has died.

"To what extent is any service offering that I would present to a survivor's next of kin, something that one would argue would demonstrate the highest degree of respect, dignity and concern for that individual who died in honouring their wishes and the wishes of the next of kin?" LuBrant said.

Curtis Funk, CEO of Tukios, a Utah-based software company serving funeral homes in Minnesota and across the country, said they would need roughly a month to complete a chatbot.

Tukios already offers an AI powered obituary writer and a content moderation tool for online guestbooks.

"People would love it, the way they listen to voice mails after someone's passed away or watch videos just to hear their voice," Funk said of such a chatbot.

"We're open-minded to building that into our suite."

But family members should decide whether to have a chatbot created and collect the content that goes into it.

"I don't think anything like that should ever be done without the family's approval," Funk said. "I think funeral directors all feel the same way." Continue reading

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The (funeral) Mass has ended... https://cathnews.co.nz/2022/10/31/the-funeral-mass-has-ended/ Mon, 31 Oct 2022 07:10:32 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=153498 funeral mass

The Catholic Church has always been very good at baptising, marrying and burying people. Those who avail themselves of the liturgies that celebrate and solemnise these key moments of our Christian existence are often called cradle-to-grave Catholics. And if you believe the Vatican's statistical office, we are growing in number. Its latest figures claim that Read more

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The Catholic Church has always been very good at baptising, marrying and burying people.

Those who avail themselves of the liturgies that celebrate and solemnise these key moments of our Christian existence are often called cradle-to-grave Catholics.

And if you believe the Vatican's statistical office, we are growing in number. Its latest figures claim that the global Catholic population increased by 16 million new members between 2019 and 2020.

But I'll let you in on a secret: the papal mathematicians are very good at addition, but they have an extremely hard time subtracting.

They only remove dead people, not those who have been baptised but no longer claim to be Catholic.

Of course, that's not the statisticians' fault, because it's nearly impossible to know the exact number of people who have opted out or have just quietly walked away — unless, of course, they've formally quit by signing a legal declaration, as is possible in places like Germany.

In any case, there is more than just anecdotal evidence to show that the numbers of baptisms, church weddings and even funeral Masses are on the decline in most parts of the world.

I'm especially interested in focusing on the decline in church funerals, given that November — which begins with the Feast of All Saints and is followed next day by the Feast of All Souls — has traditionally been a special month for us Catholics to remember our dead.

I'm thinking especially of what appears to be a growing number of life-long Catholic who are deprived of a proper church funeral after they've died.

One of the greatest regrets in my life is that I allowed that to happen to my paternal grandfather when he died back in early 2004.

"Honey, we don't want to have a funeral"

"Papa", as we called my grandfather, became a Catholic in 1940 when he married the daughter of a Hungarian (Catholic) couple that had immigrated to the United States.

Like many so-called "converts", he became a very "devout Catholic".

He and my grandmother, "Nanny", never missed Mass on Sundays and Holy Days of Obligation.

They religiously said grace before every meal, which included a Hail Mary and the Lord's Prayer for extra measure!

I also discovered something else about Papa's devotional life when I shared a hotel room with him and Nanny during a 1994 visit to Budapest.

Each night before going to sleep, he would kneel at his bed and spend nearly a half-hour whispering prayers of petition for the very specific needs of family members and friends.

He would also give thanks for the blessings of the day and ask forgiveness for any offences he knowingly or unwittingly committed.

On a cold Sunday afternoon in late January, some ten years after that memorable visit to Hungary, I was in Switzerland, when I got a phone call from a relative to inform me that Papa had died that morning.

He had spent the last several weeks in hospital and then a nursing home infirmary following a bad fall.

He was 87 years old.

I immediately called Nanny to tell her I was "coming home" on the earliest flight the next day and would be there in time to help plan the funeral.

"Honey," she said, "We don't want to have a funeral."

Since she was a Mass-going Catholic, I was really stunned to hear this.

I said nothing more about it over the phone, thinking this was just her grief speaking.

My grandparents had been inseparable and they doted on each other throughout more than 63 years of marriage.

Obviously, Nanny was devastated at losing Papa.

Plus, my father, their only child, had died five years earlier. She felt alone and vulnerable.

Role reversal

When I finally got to her home a couple days later, I again brought up funeral arrangements.

But she repeated what she'd said on the phone: "We don't want to have a funeral."

And this is where I made the mistake that I regret to this day. I quietly just accepted her choice, failing to realize that Nanny was probably not in the right frame of mind to be able to make such a decision.

The fact that she was 83 was not the issue. She lived to nearly 99 and, until the last year or so of her life, was sharp as a tack.

No, the real reason was that Papa had always taken care of such arrangements as paying the bills, making the major purchases, and so forth.

She was not psychologically equipped or prepared to do so.

A number of other incidents occurred in the months afterwards that finally made me realise that our roles had been reversed.

Nanny, who had become like a mother to me after my dad's death in 1999, now needed someone to be something like a parent or a protective son for her.

That someone was me.

Nanny lived on for over 15 more years.

She died on Holy Thursday (April 18) in 2019, just three days after the blaze that almost destroyed Notre-Dame Cathedral in Paris.

Such details one does not forget.

This time I picked up my phone in Rome and immediately began making arrangements for a funeral that would include a Mass for Christian Burial.

A lasting legacy

We had the celebration at St Stephen's Church in Toledo (Ohio), which was the immigrant parish where she had been baptised in 1920.

There were only a few dozen people at the Mass.

Most of them were not Catholic.

The liturgy was carefully planned, and family members were assigned to place the pall on the casket, do the readings and present the offertory gifts.

The priest, a longtime friend of the family, gave a homily that highlighted aspects of Nanny's life and challenged us to think hard about the one lasting legacy - just one thing - that she gave to each of us.

Although most of my family is no longer Catholic, all seemed moved by the ritual.

When we do funerals right, they are powerful.

One of my nieces even told me she was interested in becoming a Catholic.

I'd like to think that her great-grandma's funeral helped in some way to confirm her desire to do so.

I scan the obituaries each day in the Toledo Blade and read of many people who grew up Catholic, went to the parish grade school and diocesan high school.

They were married in the Church. Some are even touted as being devout Catholics and active in their parishes when younger. But so often, they are never given a public funeral Mass, especially if they are elderly. I suspect that's because their heirs are no longer practicing.

Sadly, the faith is not being passed on.

So I will be giving thanks for Nanny and Papa during the month of November as we remember our beloved dead.

For I am grateful that, among the many ways they influenced my life, inspiring me to hold on to the Catholic faith is the most important gift and lasting legacy they left to me.

  • Robert Mickens is LCI Editor in Chief.
  • First published in La-Croix International. Republished with permission.
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A final message at her funeral made everyone laugh https://cathnews.co.nz/2022/09/22/a-final-message-at-her-funeral-made-everyone-laugh/ Thu, 22 Sep 2022 07:59:47 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=152000 Michelle Neumann recently lost her battle with cancer at age 63 but she managed to send her friend a message from beyond the grave. As more than 200 people gathered for her funeral, a plane carrying a sign flew overhead which read,"I'm watching you … cry harder. M. XXX". Read more

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Michelle Neumann recently lost her battle with cancer at age 63 but she managed to send her friend a message from beyond the grave.

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‘Dead' woman bangs on coffin during her own funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2022/06/13/dead-woman-bangs-on-coffin-later-died/ Mon, 13 Jun 2022 05:59:06 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=147582 A funeral in Peru was dramatically interrupted after ‘knocking' was heard from within a coffin. A woman had been pronounced ‘dead' following a horrific crash, and later put into a coffin ahead of her funeral. But when her relatives hoisted the wooden structure onto their shoulders, they began to hear strange sounds. Read more

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A funeral in Peru was dramatically interrupted after ‘knocking' was heard from within a coffin.

A woman had been pronounced ‘dead' following a horrific crash, and later put into a coffin ahead of her funeral.

But when her relatives hoisted the wooden structure onto their shoulders, they began to hear strange sounds. Read more

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Death during lockdown: A collective nightmare, but we do it alone https://cathnews.co.nz/2020/11/23/live-stream-funeral/ Mon, 23 Nov 2020 07:11:36 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=132558 live-stream funerals

Last Thursday afternoon, ostensibly on holiday in the Wairarapa, I sat with my husband on a couch that didn't belong to us, in a house that wasn't ours, and watched his mum say goodbye to her brother on the same TV we'd been glued to the night before watching US election coverage. The same TV Read more

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Last Thursday afternoon, ostensibly on holiday in the Wairarapa, I sat with my husband on a couch that didn't belong to us, in a house that wasn't ours, and watched his mum say goodbye to her brother on the same TV we'd been glued to the night before watching US election coverage.

The same TV that allowed us to join hundreds of millions of others in a collective holding of breath, wondering whether the moral arc of the universe would bend the right way, now dropped us into our own, isolated island of grief to live-stream loss in the time of Covid.

My husband's Uncle Mike died in Sydney, where he'd lived with family for the last 23 years, on Sunday November 1.

My mother-in-law, Karen, was the only New Zealand-based family member who travelled over to be with him in his last days. Mike had Down syndrome and Karen was his legal guardian.

If life doesn't come with a manual, it sure as shit doesn't come with a guide to comforting your husband as he watches his mum sit in a chair, spaced 2m apart from everyone else, attending the funeral of a man who helped shape the person he is today.

There is no WikiHow on what to do when a son can't put his arms around his mother at a time when every fibre in his grieving body is crying out to do just that.

I put my arms around him, honouring the promise I made to Karen on the phone to look after him, but I also know it's the very definition of a consolation prize.

Most cultures have evolved practices that, through the breaking of bread and the sharing of stories, pull us out of our isolation and individual grief and back into the collective experience of farewelling a loved one.

It provides a kind of temporary, full stop to the profound intensity of loss.

The service itself was lovely.

Mike was brought into the chapel to ‘Jailhouse Rock'. The Australian celebrant did an admirable job of pronouncing the Maori words sprinkled throughout the emailed tributes.

Someone did a haka and the service ended with ‘Hine e Hine', gently tethering Mike to his whanau watching in the same way we were, back in Aotearoa.

And then it ended. The room emptied out and our last act in the formal proceedings on our side of the ditch was to yank the HDMI cable out of the laptop.

At every funeral I've ever been to, necessary catharsis is often found in what my Irish-Catholic, rugby-loving family describe as the ‘after match'.

Most cultures have evolved practices that, through the breaking of bread and the sharing of stories, pull us out of our isolation and individual grief and back into the collective experience of farewelling a loved one.

It provides a kind of temporary, full stop to the profound intensity of loss. Irreverence counters reverence, jokes replace solemnity and food nourishes both body and soul.

These communal experiences ground us, reminding us of the legacy of love left behind by the person we have said goodbye to.

They exist not as frivolous excuses for a hooley but as a necessary part of moving us through to the next stage.

We are doing everything we're meant to do as players in this collective nightmare and still, we are doing it alone. Continue reading

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The funeral as we know it is becoming a relic https://cathnews.co.nz/2019/05/13/funeral-becoming-relic/ Mon, 13 May 2019 08:10:45 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=117459 funeral

Dayna West knows how to throw a fabulous memorial shindig. She hired Los Angeles celebration-of-life planner Alison Bossert — yes, those now exist — to create what West dubbed "Memorialpalooza" for her father, Howard, in 2016 a few months after his death. "None of us is going to get out of this alive," says Bossert, Read more

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Dayna West knows how to throw a fabulous memorial shindig.

She hired Los Angeles celebration-of-life planner Alison Bossert — yes, those now exist — to create what West dubbed "Memorialpalooza" for her father, Howard, in 2016 a few months after his death.

"None of us is going to get out of this alive," says Bossert, who helms Final Bow Productions.

"We can't control how or when we die, but we can say how we want to be remembered."

And how Howard was remembered!

There was a crowd of more than 300 on the Sony Pictures Studios. A hot-dog cart from the famed L.A. stand Pink's. Gift bags, the hit being a baseball cap inscribed with "Life's not fair, get over it" (a beloved Howardism).

A constellation of speakers, with Jerry Seinfeld as the closer (Howard was his personal manager). And babka (a tribute to a favorite "Seinfeld" episode).

"My dad never followed rules," says West, 56, a Bay Area clinical psychologist. So why would his memorial service?

Death is a given, but not the time-honored rituals.

An increasingly secular, nomadic and casual America is shredding the rules about how to commemorate death, and it's not just among the wealthy and famous.

Somber, embalmed-body funerals, with their $9,000 industry average price tag, are, for many families, a relic.

Instead, end-of-life ceremonies are being personalized: golf-course cocktail send-offs, backyard potluck memorials, more Sinatra and Clapton, less "Ave Maria," more Hawaiian shirts, fewer dark suits.

Families want to put the "fun" in funerals.

The movement will only accelerate as the nation approaches a historic spike in deaths.

Baby boomers, despite strenuous efforts to stall the aging process, are not getting any younger.

In 2030, people over 65 will outnumber children, and by 2037, 3.6 million people are projected to die in the United States, according to the Census Bureau, 1 million more than in 2015, which is projected to outpace the growth of the overall population.

Just as nuptials have been transformed — who held destination weddings in the '90s? — and gender-reveal celebrations have become theatrical productions, the death industry has experienced seismic changes over the past couple of decades.

Practices began to shift during the AIDS epidemic of the 1980s, when many funeral homes were unable to meet the needs of so many young men dying, and friends often hosted events that resembled parties.

Now, many families are replacing funerals (where the body is present) with memorial services (where the body is not).

Religious burial requirements are less a consideration in a country where only 36 percent of Americans say they regularly attend religious services, nearly a third never or rarely attend, and almost a quarter identify as agnostic or atheist, according to the Pew Research Center. Continue reading

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Alan Grey RIP: Businessman, rugby enthusiast and philanthropist https://cathnews.co.nz/2018/04/05/alan-grey-rip-businessman-rugby-philanthropist/ Thu, 05 Apr 2018 08:03:27 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=105554 grey

Hundreds gathered in Apia on the Wednesday before Easter for the funeral of prominent businessman and philanthropist La'auli Alan Grey in what's been described as a who's who of Samoan society. His funeral Mass was celebrated at the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception, Mulivai. Grey was the unassuming but astute businessman who took the legendary Aggie Read more

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Hundreds gathered in Apia on the Wednesday before Easter for the funeral of prominent businessman and philanthropist La'auli Alan Grey in what's been described as a who's who of Samoan society.

His funeral Mass was celebrated at the Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception, Mulivai.

Grey was the unassuming but astute businessman who took the legendary Aggie Greys Hotel started by his mother during the Second World War and turned it into a South Seas icon.

He was also very passionate about rugby - and even earned the nickname Mr Rugby. He coached, trained, and mostly funded Manu Samoa in its international infancy years.

Grey was also a generous supporter of Catholic education in Samoa.

As well as making a significant financial contribution, he also gave much of his time providing practical advice and guidance.

He was awarded Samoa's highest honour, the Western Samoa Order of Merit, in 1993 for his services not only to tourism but to rugby.

In his eulogy, son Lupesina Frederick Grey remembered the legacy his father left behind for him and his family.

"He said 'Son, I was born a simple man. I will walk and die a simple man. Never forget, treat people with respect and humility.'"

It is La'auli's humility that people remember.

He acknowledged his father's love for the people of Samoa and those he had a chance to help.

"It was always people first, and him last," said Lupesina.

He said his father told him that life was all about people and helping fellow human beings.

"But above all, be honest and sincere to everyone, no matter how rich, poor, or what colour they are, everyone's the same to me."

 

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Funeral for bisexual goose draws a crowd https://cathnews.co.nz/2018/03/01/funeral-bisexual-goose/ Thu, 01 Mar 2018 07:20:05 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=104170 Kapiti Coast's blind, bisexual goose, Thomas was laid to rest in public ceremony earlier this month, marking the end of a life spent delighting residents and bird lovers. A headstone will be added to the grave to mark Thomas' life. He was believed to be 38 when he died. Continue reading

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Kapiti Coast's blind, bisexual goose, Thomas was laid to rest in public ceremony earlier this month, marking the end of a life spent delighting residents and bird lovers.

A headstone will be added to the grave to mark Thomas' life. He was believed to be 38 when he died. Continue reading

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Mexico's earthquake turns baptism into a funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2017/09/25/mexico-earthquake-baptism-funeral/ Mon, 25 Sep 2017 06:53:15 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=99983 Mexico's earthquake last week turned a day of joy into disaster for a family gathered at the Santiago the Apostle Catholic Church. Eleven members of the family gathering for a baptism died when the earthquake caused the ceiling to fall in. The infant was among the dead. The only survivors were the baby's father, the Read more

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Mexico's earthquake last week turned a day of joy into disaster for a family gathered at the Santiago the Apostle Catholic Church.

Eleven members of the family gathering for a baptism died when the earthquake caused the ceiling to fall in. The infant was among the dead.

The only survivors were the baby's father, the priest and the priest's assistant. Read more

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NZ Bishops ask that ashes of deceased be treated with respect https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/11/01/nz-bishops-ashes-deceased-respect/ Mon, 31 Oct 2016 16:01:17 +0000 https://cathnews.co.nz/?p=88706 ashes

Last week the Bishops of New Zealand issued a statement asking Catholics to treat the ashes of their loved ones with respect when they have chosen to have their bodies cremated. This follows on the recent statement the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith about cremation and the scattering of ashes. "The loss of Read more

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Last week the Bishops of New Zealand issued a statement asking Catholics to treat the ashes of their loved ones with respect when they have chosen to have their bodies cremated.

This follows on the recent statement the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith about cremation and the scattering of ashes.

"The loss of a loved one is a significant time for every family. It is a time when we rightly give thanks for the life of our loved ones but it is also the time for us to look forward," say the Bishops in their statement.

"This is why our Catholic celebration of the funeral liturgies leads people into the death and resurrection of the Lord, the mystery that most illuminates the Christian meaning of death."

The Bishops ask that, when cremation is chosen, the ashes of the loved one be laid to rest in a wahi tapu, a sacred place, such as at a cemetery, or a columbarium, church or surrounding area that has been blessed and set aside for this purpose.

"The place of rest then becomes a wonderful sign of the promise the risen Lord makes to us of being reunited with our loved one and with Jesus in glory," they say.

"The place of rest also ensures an appropriate and sacred place for pilgrimage for loved ones and future generations to visit and pay respect to their forebears and tipuna, knowing with certainty that this is the place of rest for their earthly remains as they await the great day of resurrection."

The Bishops have included in their statement the prayer recited for blessing a grave or place for internment of ashes.

Read the Bishops' Statement

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Southlanders farewell their own Bishop Len Boyle https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/06/14/southlands-farewell-bishop-len-boyle/ Mon, 13 Jun 2016 17:02:05 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=83685

The final requiem mass for Bishop Len Boyle was celebrated in St Mary's Basilica in Invercargill last Thursday. It was attended by A crowd of several hundred people - many of whom spilled out into the foyer. Clergy from throughout Southland, Otago, New Zealand and Australia were in attendance at the mass, as was Invercargill Read more

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The final requiem mass for Bishop Len Boyle was celebrated in St Mary's Basilica in Invercargill last Thursday.

It was attended by A crowd of several hundred people - many of whom spilled out into the foyer.

Clergy from throughout Southland, Otago, New Zealand and Australia were in attendance at the mass, as was Invercargill mayor Tim Shadbolt and students from several Southland Catholic schools.

Boyle was the parish priest at St Mary's Basilica from 1972 until he became a bishop in 1983.

The mass began with a rendition of "Lift High The Cross," with accompaniment by organist Dr Raymond White. Later, soloist Rebecca Ryan sang part of "Pie Jesu" from Faure's Requiem.

In his homily Bishop Dennis Brown said Boyle's Southland charm had a way of rubbing off on others.

He said he fondly remembered the time Boyle patted Pope John Paul II on the back as a gesture of support.

"That made him eligible for excommunication, because he had struck the Holy Father," he joked.

"He was outstanding. A humble, beautiful man who had a deep appreciation for everybody."

Boyle's niece, Catherine Morrision, also spoke at the mass.

"He was a wonderful storyteller, and could captivate an audience," she said.

"He had a remarkable memory. He was so proud of being brought up in Nightcaps and Winton."

Following the service, students from Invercargill's Verdon College performed a haka outside the basilica.

Boyle's casket was then taken to the Ascot Park Hotel for a reception, and then to Wreys Bush Cemetery where he was buried next to other members of his family.

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Priest presides at historic Melbourne gangland funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/05/27/priest-presides-historic-melbourne-gangland-funeral/ Thu, 26 May 2016 17:09:54 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=83150 A priest has presided over what has been described as the last Melbourne gangland funeral of its kind. Fr Joe Caddy presided at the funeral of George Williams, 69, the father of notorious gangland criminal, the late Carl Williams. "We all fall over," said Fr Caddy. "But all people have goodness," he added. Fr Caddy Read more

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A priest has presided over what has been described as the last Melbourne gangland funeral of its kind.

Fr Joe Caddy presided at the funeral of George Williams, 69, the father of notorious gangland criminal, the late Carl Williams.

"We all fall over," said Fr Caddy.

"But all people have goodness," he added.

Fr Caddy recognised not only the "grief" but also the "tension" of the day at St Theresa's Church in Essendon.

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Trump Easter billboard stolen from outside Auckland church https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/04/01/trump-easter-billboard-stolen-outside-akld-church/ Thu, 31 Mar 2016 16:01:22 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=81488

An Auckland church's billboard about Donald Trump was stolen while the church's minister was conducting a funeral service. The billboard was put up for Lent several weeks ago outside St Luke's Presbyterian Church in Remuera. The sign depicted US presidential candidate Donald Trump standing in front of the crucified Jesus, holding a hammer and saying, Read more

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An Auckland church's billboard about Donald Trump was stolen while the church's minister was conducting a funeral service.

The billboard was put up for Lent several weeks ago outside St Luke's Presbyterian Church in Remuera.

The sign depicted US presidential candidate Donald Trump standing in front of the crucified Jesus, holding a hammer and saying, "I don't like losers".

The billboard was taken by thieves on the Thursday before Easter.

The theft happened while St Luke's minister Rev. Glynn Cardy was inside the church conducting a funeral service.

Rev. Cardy admitted he isn't sure whether the thieves stole the billboard because they liked it or because they hated it.

"Some people don't like the billboard because they like Donald Trump.

"Some don't like the billboard because it [implies] Jesus was a loser.

"Whereas others, like myself and those here at the community of St Luke, see the cartoon as showing that the values and views of people like Mr Trump are completely at odds with those of Jesus.

"It is disappointing that someone decided to break the law and steal something that was stimulating a meaningful discussion in our community about the meaning of Easter."

St Luke's stated it would be replacing the billboard after Easter Sunday.

The church intends to keep the billboard up as long as the issue of Trump's candidacy remains undecided.

Rev. Cardy was vicar at St Matthew-in-the-City church in Auckland when it put up controversial billboards several years ago.

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Man who lay dead for weeks has cathedral funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/03/15/man-lay-dead-weeks-wgtn-cathedral-funeral/ Mon, 14 Mar 2016 15:54:30 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=81232 Jimmy Grant, 78, who may have died as long ago as January, was farewelled during a Sunday Mass at Wellington's Catholic cathedral on March 13. His body was found at his Mulgrave St apartment, near Parliament, on March 2. When his body was found, police also found a newspaper, a Bible and Mr Grant's cat's Read more

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Jimmy Grant, 78, who may have died as long ago as January, was farewelled during a Sunday Mass at Wellington's Catholic cathedral on March 13.

His body was found at his Mulgrave St apartment, near Parliament, on March 2.

When his body was found, police also found a newspaper, a Bible and Mr Grant's cat's ashes in an urn.

The cathedral parish offered to have the funeral service at the Cathedral of the Sacred Heart, as Mr Grant lived in their area, even though it is thought that he did not attend Mass.

Funeral director Simon Manning said " . . . [T]he priest in charge, Father James Lyons, said why don't we combine it with Sunday Mass and try and engage their parish community with a little bit of reality about how people live and how they die."

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Hundreds farewell Bishop Barry Jones https://cathnews.co.nz/2016/02/23/hundreds-farewell-bishop-barry-jones/ Mon, 22 Feb 2016 16:01:39 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=80649

Hundreds gathered at St Mary's Pro Cathedral on Friday for the funeral Mass following several days of prayer, tributes and Masses paying respects to Bishop Barry Jones. Faith leaders, civic leaders and the Catholic community joined with his family for the Requiem Mass led by Cardinal John Dew yesterday. Cardinal Dew began by acknowledging Bishop Read more

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Hundreds gathered at St Mary's Pro Cathedral on Friday for the funeral Mass following several days of prayer, tributes and Masses paying respects to Bishop Barry Jones.

Faith leaders, civic leaders and the Catholic community joined with his family for the Requiem Mass led by Cardinal John Dew yesterday.

Cardinal Dew began by acknowledging Bishop Barry's siblings, their families and the priests, religious and lay faithful who were mourning the loss of their beloved brother, uncle, bishop and friend.

He assured them that he and his brother bishops along with many throughout New Zealand held them in prayer.

The Diocesan staff and Bishop Barry's family had worked very hard in the last week to arrange the week of memorials which would pay a fitting tribute reflecting the spirit in which he lived and ministered to others — in a humble, prayerful and loving way.

Fr Rick Loughnan, Administrator of the Christchurch Diocese said, "We were heartened to have Anglican Bishop Victoria Matthews attend and pay her respects.

"She was a supportive friend to Bishop Barry in particular in the aftermath of the Canterbury earthquakes.

"We were also honoured to have the Rt. Hon. Gerry Brownlee, Hon. David Carter, Hon Clayton Cosgrove and Her Worship the Mayor of Christchurch Lianne Dalziel.

"The presence of our civic leaders was a sign of his presence and leadership in the wider community," said Fr Loughnan.

Bishop Basil Meeking, emeritus bishop of Christchurch, gave the homily, describing the many things that Bishop Barry had been involved in during his priestly ministry which spanned close to 50 years.

He highlighted his grasp of tikanga Maori and Te Reo and his time as Chaplain to Maori in the Christchurch Diocese.

"The Samoan community was invited to pay their respects to the Bishop at Te Rangimarie," Fr Loughnan said.

Bishop Barry was very supportive of the Carmelite sisters in Christchurch and his body was taken to the Carmelite monastery at the start of the week.

During those days the Carmelite nuns prayed the morning and evening prayer of the Church and stayed in vigil by his side overnight.

Click here to see more photographs on the Christchurch Diocese Facebook page.

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Hollywood-style funeral of mobster sparks outrage in Rome https://cathnews.co.nz/2015/08/25/hollywood-style-funeral-of-mobster-sparks-outrage-in-rome/ Mon, 24 Aug 2015 19:12:33 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=75716

The Hollywood-style funeral of a notorious mobster in Rome has seen anti-Mafia campaigners demanding to know why police and the Catholic Church allowed it. The funeral of Vittorio Casamonica, 65, on August 20 featured a gilded horse-drawn carriage, flower petals tossed from a helicopter and theme music from "The Godfather". The coffin was draped with Read more

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The Hollywood-style funeral of a notorious mobster in Rome has seen anti-Mafia campaigners demanding to know why police and the Catholic Church allowed it.

The funeral of Vittorio Casamonica, 65, on August 20 featured a gilded horse-drawn carriage, flower petals tossed from a helicopter and theme music from "The Godfather".

The coffin was draped with an image of St Pio of Pietrelcina (Padre Pio).

The Casamonica clan has been accused of racketeering, extortion, drug trafficking, prostitution and usury in the south-east of the city.

Rome city hall said last Thursday that Vittorio Casamonica himself was the subject of "many investigations into Roman criminality".

A banner on Don Bosco church in Rome's outskirts read: ""You conquered Rome, now you'll conquer paradise."

Another banner proclaimed: "King of Rome" and featured the dead criminal decked out in white with a crucifix to look like the Pope

Fr Giancarlo Manieri said he had no control over what happened outside the church.

Observers said the ceremony inside the church was sober and people followed it with care.

Rome auxiliary Bishop Giuseppe Mariante said Church officials did not know the ceremony would be accompanied by "Mafia propaganda".

"Of course, if we had had the suspicion of a show of this type, we would have taken precautions," Bishop Mariante was quoted as saying in L'Osservatore Romano.

"We absolutely would not have accepted conducting that funeral," the bishop said.

Political reaction to the funeral was swift.

Anti-Mafia campaigner Roberto Saviano hit out at the Church's apparent acquiescence in the face of such a tawdry event.

"The Church that denied a funeral to Piergiorgio Welby [an Italian man who ended his own life after suffering incurable muscular dystrophy] yesterday granted one in full regalia to the boss, Vittorio Casamonica," he tweeted.

Politicians called on the interior ministry to explain whether it had given special permits for the ceremony.

In June last year, during a visit to southern Italy, Pope Francis threatened mobsters with excommunication.

In February, the Pope said the Church would welcome such criminals back if they repented.

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Wrong body cremated at British politician's funeral https://cathnews.co.nz/2015/03/10/wrong-body-cremated-at-british-politicians-funeral/ Mon, 09 Mar 2015 14:11:28 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=68851

The wrong body was cremated at the funeral of a British politician in January after an incredible mix-up. The West Midlands European Parliament MP Philip Bradbourn, 63, had died of bowel cancer in December at Good Hope Hospital in Sutton Coldfield. But another man's body was cremated at the Conservative politician's funeral on January 16 Read more

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The wrong body was cremated at the funeral of a British politician in January after an incredible mix-up.

The West Midlands European Parliament MP Philip Bradbourn, 63, had died of bowel cancer in December at Good Hope Hospital in Sutton Coldfield.

But another man's body was cremated at the Conservative politician's funeral on January 16 at Bushbury Crematorium in Wolverhampton.

The "wrong" body cremated was that of Philip Bradburn, a man without close family or relatives, who died at Queen Elizabeth Hospital in Birmingham before Christmas.

Mr Bradburn's funeral had been arranged by social services.

After the two men's deaths, their bodies had been taken to the Central England Co-operative Funeralcare mortuary.

Mr Bradbourn's family slammed the mix-up after having to hold a second funeral for him the following month.

Last week, politicians gathered to pay their respects to Mr Bradbourn at St Peter's Collegiate Church in Wolverhampton at a separate memorial service.

An investigation has been launched into how the mix-up happened.

Dr Andrew Catto, executive medical director at the trust which runs Good Hope Hospital, said: "This is an incredibly distressing situation and we are very sorry that this has happened.

"This is a rare incident and we are offering support to those close to the deceased."

But Dr Catto added: "This occurred in spite of the fact that mortuary procedures conform to nationally defined standards and are subject to periodic audit."

A spokesperson for Central England Co-operative Funeralcare said: "The society is supporting one of our partners in a full and open investigation, but is not able to comment further while the investigation is ongoing."

European MP Anthea McIntyre, who went to Mr Bradbourn's first funeral, said serious questions have been sent "right to the top of government" on this issue.

At the time of Mr Bradbourn's death, UK Prime Minister David Cameron led tributes to the "dedicated" and "well-respected" politician who served in the European Parliament since 1999.

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Harley Davidson - the new funeral vehicle https://cathnews.co.nz/2015/03/03/harley-davidson-the-new-funeral-vehicle/ Mon, 02 Mar 2015 18:20:04 +0000 http://cathnews.co.nz/?p=68612 Forget horse-drawn carriages, there's a new funeral vehicle in town. Massey Bros. Funeral Home have come up with a really innovative way to say farewell - a slick Harley Davidson Hearse. The hearse is in fact a sidecar attached to the motorbike, and is the first of its type south of the border. The new Read more

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Forget horse-drawn carriages, there's a new funeral vehicle in town. Massey Bros. Funeral Home have come up with a really innovative way to say farewell - a slick Harley Davidson Hearse.

The hearse is in fact a sidecar attached to the motorbike, and is the first of its type south of the border. The new Massey Bros. Harley-Davidson hearse will be on show at the Irish Motorbike & Scooter Show. Have a look

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